It can be difficult to know what to expect when you come to counselling, especially if it is your first time. Every therapist is different, which is a great thing! I believe so much of what happens in counselling has to do with the relationship between you and the counsellor. I offer a free 20-minute consultation on the phone or in person as a chance to get to know each other. If we're not a good fit, I will do my best to connect you with someone else who might be able to help.
Counselling should a collaborative and creative process. I have done a lot of work to understand myself and how people and family systems work, but you are absolutely the expert on your own life. My goal is to sit with you in the discomfort that life can bring and help you reconnect to your own existing strengths and wisdom. This means an integration of the mind, body, heart, and spirit to discover wholeness.
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable , but they are never weakness.” - Brené Brown
Whether you are dealing with depression, anxiety, past trauma, or feeling stuck, counselling can be a safe place to find rest and experience change. Our emotions, thoughts, and sensations, no matter how scary they can be, communicate important messages about the sacredness of who we are and the resiliency of our body, mind, and spirit.
My hope is that, along with your specific goals for therapy, you will also leave feeling more congruent, responsible, able to make better choices, and having higher self-esteem.
Couples & Family Counselling
“Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued - when they can give and receive without judgement” - Brené Brown
The yearnings for love, connection, and belonging are universal. When we can dance together in relationships, it can be a beautiful picture of intimacy, growth, and vulnerability. However, when old patterns of interaction show up and emotions are ignored or shut away, the dance can fall apart and become painful or even frightening. All families and couples go through difficult challenges and changes; when stress gets high, we often adopt important coping stances to help us survive. While this coping has good intentions, it can often leave a wake of hurt feelings and miscommunication.
Counselling can be a safe space to explore this dance, grow in awareness of what is not working, and be able to learn something new. In this space you may find the safety to communicate your emotions in a new and open way; something that doesn't happen easily when we get stuck in our typical coping cycles. With those new experiences, my hope is that you grow in wholeness individually and in your relationships.
“When you focus on the problem, you lose sight of the child” - Gary Landreth
Children are wired for growth and, when they feel heard, safe, and accepted, they can thrive. Play therapy can create a temporary and secure environment to allow children to access their resources, connect with their emotions, and experience themselves in a new way. We use play because it is the natural language of children. They can process and express their internal emotional landscape in a way that is safely removed from reality. When they can do this, they rewire their brain and can find rest from the impacts of difficult experiences.
At Discover Counselling we primarily use sand tray, play, and art to facilitate this space for children (and sometimes adults) to explore their emotions, expectiations, perceptions, and unment yearnings.